Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Plea for mom advice on natural flow bottle feeding

Quick question for moms:
Since this is night #2 in which Judah has refused to nurse (fine DURING the night and day, but bedtime two days in a row he traumatically refuses), I'm wondering if there's a better bottle nipple option that is more natural flow and might make the bottle less "easy" for Judah. I'm using Dr Brown's level 1 because it was given to me, but I'm totally open to suggestions.

Also - Dr. said today to just "really push him on there" and he'd eventually latch. I didn't believe him when he said it because I tried that last night and it just made the little man more frantic and mad, which is NOT the mood you want a baby in when you're trying to get him to eat. Tonight just confirms that to me. So... moms... what have you done when the baby wants to eat but isn't latching?


junglewife said...

I can't help with the bottle thing, but when mine were frantic and not latching, I would use the pacifier to calm them down. When they would get frantic (always at night for mine, too!) I would give them the pacifier, let them calm down and suck real hard on the pacifier, and then real quick, pop out the pacifier and pop in my nipple. Sometimes it took a couple tries (and some cries, because I was frustrated that it was the pacifier would calm them, but not me!) but usually that would do the trick. My goal was to get them calmed down, and then hopefully they wouldn't be so frantic when they were trying to latch on. Hope this helps!

kediger said...

We used Breast Flow bottles. You can get them at Target. They seem to be pretty slow. I'd also recommend a lactation consultant. We had latch issues in the beginning and it just helped to get some support from a "professional." Good luck! You're a great mama!!

AHLondon said...

A couple of suggestions:
Try feeding him a tad earlier. He might just be getting really hungry so frantic.
Put some milk on your nipple or feed him half an ounce to calm him then latch him on.
If he's eating for a while once you get him on, the pump for 10 minutes after he is finished to stimulate more milk at this time. Do that for 2 days and your boobies will then produce more milk for the evening feed. How old is he? Three weeks? Food demand.
Does he happen to latch then get mad and break the latch? If you are loaded, i.e. under pressure, you might be spraying the back of his throat and gagging him when he starts. Or you could just be too hard to get a latch. If either of those sound right, then pump before latching him on, just enough to ease the pressure. Hand pumping into the sink until you aren't spraying will work too.

Alice said...

I have no idea if this would work, but I will throw it out there. Because Elaine was in NICU for a week before she could come home (and was bottlefed there), it was hard for her to switch back and forth at first. The hospital gave me this silicone nipple-type thing that fitted over my own nipple, making it seem more "bottle-like" to her. Then she could either stay that way, or I could slip it off mid-feed and she would latch on normally again.

ju.vanderw said...

We used Nuk bottles. They're pretty slow. I hated Dr. Brown bottles because 1) too many parts to wash and 2) the nipple that I have are not slow flowing. I have been super happy with the Nuk bottles.

Also, if he's refusing to eat only at night time... Are you nursing him while he's swaddled? It may be that he knows it's bedtime and he doesn't like it. Alaise did that to us - from the moment we started swaddling her, she'd scream. And could it be a growth spurt? Babies get fussier for no good reason during growth spurts.

Kacie said...

Hmm interesting thoughts from everyone.. thanks all!

I don't think it's that Judah is too hungry, I'm actually thinking it might be the opposite. He might have had plenty to eat and be eating less this week, and so he starts eating and decides he just doesn't want to, and that combined with him being tired because it's bedtime causes him to ramp up and scream.

I do sometimes nurse him when he's swaddled, but not always. And I'm pretty sure it's not the spraying because that happens regularly and he always can work through it - this reaction is different.

For now I'm avoiding bottles, if he pulls off and fusses I don't try to push him back on at all.

Erin said...

Dr. Jack Newman is the guru of breastfeeding: http://www.drjacknewman.com/ They've got tons of helpful videos there!!